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The Power Of Positive Influences 

What impact do your actions and outlooks have on you? 

Have you ever considered how your everyday actions and attitude might influence your choices and those around you? 

Have you ever come away from a conversation and thought, ‘wow, that was a draining conversation’ even though it was a very menial topic? 

What we consume and how we think and act all impact our choices and therefore influence our impact on the world. 

Most of the time, we might not even realise that the things we say to people impact them, but it is. 

This is the power of influence. 

We all can influence others. 

And this influence shouldn’t be thought of on a big stage where you’re changing the whole world. 

This influence could be changing someone’s world – an incredible thing to do. 

1. The People That Surround You

Positivity breeds positivity. 

When in a position of power, your mood acts as the thermostat for that person or group of people’s mood. 

This position of power could be being a line manager at work, a parent to a child or simply when we are engaged in a conversation with a good friend. 

How we interact with others will rub off on them and vice versa. 

Think about the people you spend the most time with right now. 

Family, friends, co-workers, strangers – whoever it may be.

When you think about your interactions with those, are they primarily positive or negative? 

How do you feel when you finish a conversation with them? Even if the topic could be more pleasant, did it still feel productive and worthwhile? Or has it left you feeling deflated? 

Sometimes when we seek to create a more favourable environment for ourselves, we distance ourselves from our loved ones. We are not suggesting you cut these family and friends out from your life totally, but just consider the amount of time and the type of time you are spending with them. 

Positive surroundings don’t mean perfect surroundings. 

It means making sure your environment and the things you regularly interact with are having a positive influence on you. 

It becomes much easier to stay focused on the end goal when your environment and surroundings reflect the attitude and intention of that goal. 

Often, the clients who are the most successful in their journey with us are the ones who are creating an environment where everything is geared towards being a better version of themselves.

Their friends and family are on board, and not making negative comments when they decide not to have dessert when they go out for dinner. 

They are regularly coming to The Barn, where everyone is a like-minded individual with the goal of bettering themselves and that radiates through. 

They converse with other members about their journey, struggles, and wins and receive support from others who have been there or are going through the same thing. 

The common denominator is that they are ensuring the things they consume add to their lives, not taking them away. 

2. Your Physical Environment

This is your prompt to sort through that pile of posts on the kitchen counter!

Clutter accumulates clutter. 

The piles continue to grow until the task feels unattainable, and you’re extremely unmotivated to do it.

Some research suggests that regularly seeing piles of clutter can make it hard to focus, affect your memory, and decrease your productivity. 

When we talk about decluttering space, this doesn’t only refer to your home, car or work environment. 

Our phones are often something we spend a lot of time on (probably too much time), and having loads of notifications and apps everywhere can contribute to this feeling of overwhelm. 

Try unsubscribing from mailing lists that you no longer care for. 

Block together similar apps so that when you look at one app, you don’t get distracted by another. 

Set your phone background as something that makes you smile whenever you open your phone! 

Get into the habit of spending 5 minutes per day organising clutter and putting things back where they belong. 

It doesn’t need to be a whole day’s activity. Just a few minutes daily can make a huge difference. 

Once you’ve cleared your space, make it a space you enjoy.

This could mean decorating a room to add personality and be full of things that make you happy!

Add some indoor plants, some lovely artwork and some positive affirmations so that every time you are in that space, you immediately feel a sense of calmness and happiness. 

3. Your Mental Environment

Our mind. 

What goes on in our heads plays a considerable role in our everyday lives and impacts those around us. 

Filling our minds with negative thoughts about ourselves is never productive.

‘I am so rubbish at my job.’

‘I look horrible in this jumper.’

‘Why did I say that?’ 

All these negative thoughts infiltrate other areas of our lives and influence how we interact with people. 

When you next find yourself thinking in an unproductive, negative way try to flip the narrative:

I am so rubbish at my job → today’s task was hard, but I know I can learn how to perform better in the future.

I look horrible in this jumper → I’ve outgrown this jumper as my style has changed, perhaps I should donate this one and replace it with one I feel confident in

Why did I say that? → I might look silly for replying to ‘happy birthday’ with ‘thanks, you too!’ But at least I have put a smile on someone’s face, and it will be forgotten about within 0.2 seconds 

The things we consume also influence how our mental space will feel. 

This ranges from social media, TV shows, and books to the people we debate. 

We don’t have to always be watching educational documentaries for them to be worthwhile. 

But certain shows/narratives shift your thinking to a more negative or toxic one. 

For example, we have spoken with a client about reality dating shows. 

We are all for a bit of mindless TV when appropriate. Still, when watching that, we discussed how we found ourselves commenting on people’s looks, judging someone from the 2-minute clip we saw of them each day, and it bred a nasty mindset which muddled into everyday life. 

In this instance, there is a tradeoff – 1 hour of mindless TV for a spiteful mindset. 

That one hour of mindless TV can be easily swapped for something that makes us feel good and positive and doesn’t leave us judging others for no reason. 

4. Daily Choices

The Butterfly Effect is the idea that everything is interconnected – one small action can significantly impact things to follow. 

The Domino Effect explains that when you change one behaviour, a chain reaction follows and causes a shift in other related behaviours too. 

Our daily choices have a significant impact on our lives. 

Sometimes a seemingly irrelevant action will have a knock-on effect in either a positive or negative direction without you even realising it. 

When we think of these theories about creating the best environment for us, this refers to our choices around our health, which might only sometimes seem apparent. 

This could be things such as:

  • Only drinking coffee in the morning, not having any water until after lunch
  • Rushing around getting yourself and your family ready in the morning, so you don’t have time for breakfast
  • Staying up later than you should watch that last episode of a great series 
  • Not going to bed because you feel as though you don’t have any ‘you’ time in the day 
  • Eating out x4 per week because it is convenient 
  • Not scheduling a 20-30 minute break between meetings 

The list goes on…

All of these actions have consequences for our physical and mental environment:

  • Only drinking coffee in the morning, not having any water until after lunch → not being sufficiently hydrated, more likely to experience headaches, more brain fog, overeating, and sleep disruption. 
  • Rushing around getting yourself and your family ready in the morning, so you don’t have time for breakfast → no energy or focus throughout the morning, picking poor nutrient quality food, more likely to overeat later and then have to deal with the associated feelings that come with that. 
  • Staying up later than you should watch that last episode of a great series →, feeling tired the next day, therefore looking for energy from food and drink, less clarity in decision making and more likely to skip exercise due to tiredness.
  • Not going to bed because you feel as though you don’t have any ‘you’ time in the day → experiencing bedtime procrastination (discussed here), affecting your circadian rhythm, attention and ability to adhere to a nutrition and exercise plan. 
  • Eating out x4 per week because it is convenient → not accurately tracking what is in your meals, making poorer nutritional choices and increasing the likelihood of having a ‘f*ck it’ mentality and making bad choices for the rest of the day. 
  • Not scheduling in a 20-30 minute break between meetings → you spend 80% of your day sedentary, therefore have extremely low NEAT, impacting your weight loss journey (check out our blog on energy expenditure) and experience screen burnout, impacting your creativity. 

Whether it is a conscious thought or not, that ‘small’ decision to do something will domino into other choices in your day. 

If you make a choice, not in line with your goal(s), that doesn’t give you a right of passage to continue on that route. 

Accept you could have made a better choice, perhaps try to dial in to understand why you did make that decision and then… move on. 

Dwelling on any ‘bad’ decisions does not change the past. 

It does not positively alter the outcome. 

So don’t let it alter your future. 

5. Our Impact on Others

Coming full circle back to the opening question of this blog. 

Have you ever considered how your everyday actions and attitude might influence your choices and those around you? 

Sometimes, we need others to support us. 

We are in a tough spot and rely on our loved ones to help us get through the rough patch when we can’t quite do it ourselves. 

However, we can fail to see that even when you feel good and don’t need support, those around you influence your thoughts. 

We mirror the energy we are surrounded by. We absorb the mood of others. 

If we put our mental and physical health first, make good daily choices supporting our goals, and spend quality time with like-minded people, we become that excellent energy for someone else. 

You show someone else that making these things a priority works.

Showing people that putting time and effort into yourself will pay divides such a powerful tool. 

It can be easy to forget that we must invest money, time and effort into ourselves when life is so driven towards doing things for others. 

But when you do these things for yourself and become a better version of yourself, you are helping those around you, even if you don’t realise it. 

A simple, friendly face and asking ‘how are you doing’ can be enough to change someone’s day. 

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